They say opposites attract, but do they really?
The blogosphere has blown up with posts about dating non-readers and they're just everywhere! Even Barnes & Noble and BookRiot have their own posts about the subject. I couldn't escape the spread and decided instead of ignoring it, just to grab on and write my own post. I don't know about you, but I love these types of posts where I'm able to share personal experiences and opinions. So as a disclaimer, everything said in this post is my opinion and you don't have to agree with it.
When it comes to books there are 50% of those who love to read and 50% who just don't. It's a simple known fact that not everyone loves to read as much as booklovers do. And you can't help if your heart falls for a non-booklover or a booklover. This post is for both non-booklovers and booklovers alike. I hope you guys like it and find it very debatable!
What do I think?
For booklovers, I think it really depends on the person. If you're dating a non-reader and that person is not supportive of what you love to do, ehhhhhh. Will he/she accept that you'll be a few minutes late to dinner because you were too caught up in a book? Will he/she accept that you don't see their texts because the main character of your book just died and you're too in shock to speak? These are the kinds of things I mean when I say acceptance.
I'm so blessed to be with someone who is not a booklover but understands what I do and tries to encourage it. He even recommends books to me and he's the first person that got me hooked on Brandon Sanderson. If it wasn't for him, I would have never read Steelheart and I would have never declared Sanderson as my favorite fantasy author ever!
Nonreaders bring so many new things to a relationship. While you're reading, they're probably cleaning your room or getting you something to drink. They can also teach you about the things they love to do and help you with some things that you're not strong in (because your reading game is already too strong :3).
Some perks I've picked up
- They think you're smart because you read (totally awesome!)
- They can't argue with you when you're talking about a book you really hate or really love
- Buying you more books, rather than buying books for himself/herself
- Force you to get out more (which is good because although you love reading, you still need a social life)
- They don't ask to borrow books because they don't like to read
- You can fangirl about books to them with spoilers and all because they've never read the book but you need someone to let the steam and feels off
- They'll probably even become interested in learning more about literature
For non-booklovers, of course, you should totally date a reader! If you're reading this post and you're not a big reader, I'm going to try to convince you to date a booklover! First off all, we're like totally filled with knowledge because of all the books and info that have been stuffed in our brain. I think I've learned more things about knives and assassin's blades than I ever will on the internet just from reading books like Throne of Glass. Not that I'll ever need any knowledge of knives... well... maybe sometime in the future when I'm a ninja :)
Why you should date a reader?
- We'll be able to teach you things :D
- We're good listeners
- Easy to buy gifts for, don't forget that
- We stay up late, ohh yes (not just for reading, but for you)
- Don't be afraid to leave us alone. We're not going to be lonely with a book in hand
- We made good conversation
- Wide range of vocal that we can teach you
- We know a lot about romance since mostly ALL books these days have a smidgen of romance
- We commit, not only to book series but to relationships
And, of course, I couldn't leave out the last group.
Booklovers & Booklovers
Awww. It's a match made in heaven and you're probably going to have so much fun staying up late together reading or sitting against a tall tree and reading together underneath it. When you both have read a series, you'll take hours, maybe even days, talking about everything that went down and the characters that you love. You'll probably understand each other so well and let each other borrow their books. You're going to tag each other in cool bookish posts on Facebook and tweet book inspired pictures that make you two laugh. Aww it's so cute!
However, it's not all sunshine and rainbows on the other side. On the down side, you guys might be so immersed in books that when one of you hates a book that the other loves, be prepared for some gunships and cannons because THIS MEANS WAR! I mean... you'll disagree hehe. I don't like to get violent on you but it's the truth. Something as simple as a disagreement on your favorite book series can shatter a relationship. So keep an eye out fellow booklovers!